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Old 01-27-2012, 04:22 PM
 
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Thoughts? Yay or nay?

Was having an interesting convo with my friends the other day and they didn't seem to have a problem with it. I'm indifferent towards the whole thing, I'm on the fence to be honest, not sure if I could do it or not. One of my boys is 26, and he's seeing a 19 year old...she looks mature enough but I'm not sure. She's not old enough to drink.
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Old 01-27-2012, 04:25 PM
 
Location: United State of Texas
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I see no harm in it. They are of legal age. Maturity escapes many people well into their mid 20s and others mature very early. It all depends on the two people.
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Old 01-27-2012, 04:34 PM
 
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Thoughts? Yay or nay?

Was having an interesting convo with my friends the other day and they didn't seem to have a problem with it. I'm indifferent towards the whole thing, I'm on the fence to be honest, not sure if I could do it or not. One of my boys is 26, and he's seeing a 19 year old...she looks mature enough but I'm not sure. She's not old enough to drink.
That's not much of an age difference at all, I've got no problem with it.

Many times you'll have a less mature 25 year old guy and a very mature 19 year old girl and they'll really hit it off.

30 is the dividing line for me.

In general a 30 year old should not be dating a 19 year old.
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Old 01-27-2012, 04:54 PM
 
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My sis started dating her boyfriend at 19 and he was 29. They have been together for 2 years now. He is too old and semi- controlling but its just him. I dont think every guy dating someone younger will be like that. But I am a hypocrite because I dont want any of my friends dating older men.
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Old 01-27-2012, 05:01 PM
 
Location: Utah
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I am all about the older men. I should know because I married one.

I am all for it!
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Old 01-27-2012, 05:25 PM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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That's not much of an age difference at all, I've got no problem with it.

Many times you'll have a less mature 25 year old guy and a very mature 19 year old girl and they'll really hit it off.

30 is the dividing line for me.

In general a 30 year old should not be dating a 19 year old.
Why not? They are both of age.

The chance is slim on any relationship being long term anyway. Life is short and a match is difficult. If a younger/older person makes you happy and you both have common interests and chemistry I say go for it!
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Old 01-27-2012, 05:28 PM
 
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I think any two consenting adults of legal age should be able to date regardless of their sex or age. It should be up to them.
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Old 01-27-2012, 05:54 PM
 
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That's not much of an age difference at all, I've got no problem with it.

Many times you'll have a less mature 25 year old guy and a very mature 19 year old girl and they'll really hit it off.

30 is the dividing line for me.

In general a 30 year old should not be dating a 19 year old.
I'll go with you on that, something about 30 when you are probably about as mature as you can get.
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Old 01-27-2012, 06:23 PM
 
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If she was mature enough, sure. Most 18-19 yos these days are still teenagers, mentally, though.
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Old 01-27-2012, 06:32 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Obviously it's a question of the mental maturity of both parties.

But having met many 18/19 year olds (and having been one myself), and having met many mid-20 year olds, I think it'd usually be weird. More for the two people involved than anything else. The 25 year old has a job, has to deal with real life stuff... the 18 year old is probably in college and still young mentally.

I think the (Age/2)+7 rule is the best.
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