Comment #1 (Posted by PeaBody) Rating Ms Crawford, there is simply no way your are Italian, I cannot imagine an Italian would raise so many stereotypes about their own culture.
Comment #2 (Posted by ALLISON) Rating You're right on about Italian men loving their mothers. However, Italian men brought up in Italy feel they have the right, and it is the custom, for them to have affairs even when married. It is simply their inherited culture.
Comment #3 (Posted by Noah) Rating I cant stand stereotypes.
Comment #4 (Posted by AmericanErin) Rating This article was good up until you started going into the so-called "good stuff" about Italian men and their family dynamics. I've seen nothing but arguing and screaming at dinner and this has been after 5 yrs being with my Sicilian boyfriend who is obnoxiously proud of his culture. I've never ever seen laughing after dinner or during ANY family get together. His family is only filled with drama and yelling. Even my boyfriend conveys the message to me that his family is talking about at any given time because I don't speak the language. Even HE leaves with a headache and bad attitude afterwards. Not only that, he's a huge mama's boy, which makes me feel just as the article said "You will never truly be his #1"... that part is 100% true.
I have never seen an adult 30 year old male (or any male!) complain so much about having to do his OWN laundry, or OH MY GOD... WASH DISHES. You would think it's D-DAY. It's really unacceptable behavior and just because it's in their culture does NOT mean it's correct! I have spoken to an Italian counselor about this in fact, and those were her words. (sigh) It's useless. I have seen my boyfriends' friends and family members and the way they blatantly leave ANY AND ALL cleaning up to the woman of the house (wife, mother, etc) is appalling and sad. It's sadder that the women of this culture haven't stood up for themselves and demanded help and equality. They just feed the men. Then they have to clean up their mess. This is all my boyfriend has witnessed. I'm terrified that this is what he expects ME to become - his mama! No way in hell.
Comment #5 (Posted by Laura) Rating I want to know everything about Italian men as I have just started talking to a new man. :)
This was a great article and it makes me feel more comfortable now. Thank you!
Comment #6 (Posted by Chelsey Mortimer) Rating I've never read so much rubbish in all my life LOL! My 10 years first-hand experience of an Italian man is they are liars; cheats and are never faithful to their women. Even though they may look doting, looks are very deceiving.
Comment #7 (Posted by Stephanie) Rating I love an Italian guy and Iím 13 but I just feel like I have no chance with him :( Like one day he looked at me like if I was a Goddess and have been flirting with the looks for about two days. After, it became like before. My parents donít let me wear makeup, do my hair straight (so itís poufy). And I have no choice to present as me as myself. I really need some advice.
Comment #8 (Posted by Kecia) Rating Wow, I want an italian!
Comment #9 (Posted by la) Rating That's true!
Comment #10 (Posted by Ash) Rating I learned a lot from this. Thank you.
Comment #11 (Posted by Anthony T) Rating I am 100% Italian (2nd generation) and I can see slight undertones of truth about Italian men being very close to their mothers, but the mama's boy statement is a little off the mark. I see my parents once a week for a family gathering and speak with them one other time during the week. That hardly qualifies me as a mama's boy. Moreover, I simply adore my wife, cook gourmet meals for her and treat her like a goddess, make love to her like a stallion and would never even conceive of betraying her trust in any way. So, Italian men being notorious cheaters is another false stereotype. As for being stubborn, yes I am passionate about many things in life and do not prostitute my principals for anyone. However, I am open minded and always willing to change for the better.
Additionally, anyone who argues and yells at other family members over the dinner table is very dysfunctional. Which does NOT represent the Italian culture. Lastly, I am very protective over my wife, kids and family (as anyone should be). As for being possessive, my friends and I cannot relate to that. We do not view women as an object or possession. However, it is true we love women more than life and express this through mutual respect, erotic love making and a deep passion for pleasing our woman.
Comment #12 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating Good article
Comment #13 (Posted by Marie) Rating Very well written
Comment #14 (Posted by mary lou) Rating Pretty true. I am aussie with an Italian (ex tourist) fiance! It has been terrific and hell all at once. I have met his mamma and papa and she didnt like that her son paid me more attention and gave me more kisses than HER! She tried to sabotage our relationship but he said 'Its my life'!! Needless to say we dont get along. She is back in italy after staying here for a month and Yes I did $everything! We have a son together and another on the way. Would I recommend italian men...?!? The answer... yes, IF you are extremely patient and tolerant and stand ya damn ground. Also lots of gentleness is important. 😃
Comment #15 (Posted by June) Rating Everything in this article is true, I'm engaged to a very handsome Italian man, he's jealous, stubborn, loves his mama, excellent lover, and he spoiled me, he gives me everything I want and need at times we bump heads because of the different cultures, I'm Guyanese but we love each other so very much, and in the process of planning a very big wedding next summer.
Comment #16 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating I married a first generation Italian man and wished I would have read this article years ago. He kept telling me "I'm different from the rest of my family" but yep then came the part about the notorious liar part. He's a great listener, so that part is not on the mark, but being there and protecting our family... absolutely NOT. So I find out years later that he basically has a "harem". Half the time I wonder where he is and have for the most part done that our whole relationship. And his mother is NOT happy that I am not Italian, so she often belittles me, tries to get custody of the kids (claiming I am an unfit mother), and says she really wishes he would have married someone else. I wonder if that is a stereotype also :o(
Comment #17 (Posted by Alceo) Rating Everything written is a hundred percent true, I am an Italian man from Italy moved here when I was young but visit every year still due to so much family still there and yes I am a mommas boy and proud of it. She will always be my #1 girl always! 2, dinners are exactly as described and 3, we are possessive but not abusive and we are extremely passionate sexually and emotionally so I have to say great job on the article an anyone who disagrees clearly is not a REAL Italian. Second generation third generation is not what this article is referring to. This is about true Italian men not Americans.
Comment #18 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating Very helpful!
Comment #19 (Posted by Samantha) Rating I have fallen for a wonderful Italian man; this article gives me high hopes for the future.
Comment #20 (Posted by Linda Spangler) Rating This is exactly what I was looking for, thank you so much!
Comment #21 (Posted by Cyn) Rating Thank you so much for this article. I am an African woman and my boyfriend is an Italian, this article has helped me to understand him better so thank you.
Comment #22 (Posted by Skye) Rating I'm in high school (please hold collective groans until the end) and I just started dating the Italian Foreign Exchange Student. Everywhere he goes girls practically undress themselves flirting with him and honestly I'm jealous and afraid he will cheat... But those girls aren't the only problem: I've been sexually harassed for 4 years and I am afraid to get physical.
I have been around Foreigners my whole life (I grew up with Russians, then went to school with Norwegians, French, Spanish, Brazilians, Germans, and other Italians) so I am good with those who don't speak much English (if that means anything). Any advice is greatly appreciated!
(You may groan now)
Comment #23 (Posted by Giovanna) Rating I'm a northern Italian woman married to a northern Italian man. All things you've written don't belong to my husband, who doesn't live for his mother, he isn't loud, possessive, aggressive, all you've written is about southern Italians.
THIS ISN'T MY LIFE.
I could NEVER be with a man who fits your description. Please, stop writing everywhere the story of Italian guys and their mothers, my mother-in-law is nothing like you foreigners think.
In northern Italy we're like French.
PS. To Alceo: I'm a REAL Italian, born and raised in northern Italy.
Comment #24 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating Awesome article
Comment #25 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating Great, enjoyed it very much!
Comment #26 (Posted by Jenna) Rating Oh my God, my fiancť is Italian and we are really in love. I mostly like to read and know more about Italian guys and culture, and I see most of what Iíve read here about them true, my fiancť is jealous, too much romantic that makes my eyes filled with tears sometimes as much as he tell me sweet and romantic words.
And about possessive, umm he like to call me -mine- and you are my my most of the time.
I don't know but I like that and I liked what I get to know about that they turn the dinner looks like world war III, Lmao.
I also like how he love his mother. XD
Comment #27 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating Superb
Comment #28 (Posted by Anna) Rating I have impression that Italians at home hate each other. There is little respect between children-parents and mother-father relation in northern European culture meaning. They are stubborn, not elegant mannered and often rude. They want her wife to do everything; they always have headaches or irrational problems. They are also lazy. They don't have any sophisticated topics: pasta and pizza is most important part of their life. Number one in their life is not mom but themselves.
Comment #29 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating Great article 👌 wish me luck to find my nr1.
Comment #30 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating So true about some Italian men.
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